Life be life’n. We all know this. It can seem like life is happening to us. We are being tossed and turned by forces that we cannot manage or control. But is this really God’s will for us? To be victims of life? Just typing this sounds wrong.

Emotions can lead us away from our true selves and goals. It seems that this reality is much more common than our emotions driving us along the highway toward our best selves and better lives. In our chaotic lives, we must sit with our emotions. We need to get to know them, identify them, and take control. Only then can we find fulfilment in our everyday lives.

Our minds determine what we see and how we perceive what we see. Our minds determine the triggering of emotions and how we respond. Our minds dictate what we will do or not do. All wars in our lives are won and lost on the battlefield of our minds. Our mindset determines our peace, joy, happiness, or success. I talk about mindset a lot. I’ve come to learn that thinking differently will not only welcome healing but will open doors we never thought possible.

Change. We all know it’s necessary, but let’s be honest—it’s also terrifying. Whether it’s stepping into a new job, leaving a toxic relationship, or pursuing a dream we’ve kept buried, the idea of doing something different often feels like an uphill battle.

Life will never, ever be perfect. Neither will you—or me. But with the Lord’s help, we can create a life where we feel comfortable and safe. And if not comfortable and safe, at least intentional and progressive. I know things are looking darker much faster than we anticipated. I know it feels like we’re being thrust into the end times.

Consider how pain, challenges, and constant comparisons keep you feeling “stuck” or burdened. Moving beyond a “victim mindset” liberates us from the “woe is me” narrative that insists we don’t deserve rest or that we lack the strength to say “no.” This mindset can keep us bound to expectations that exhaust us, draining our time and energy.

Allow yourself grace for the journey. Step into a space of observation rather than analysis. One of the most subtle ways we are thrown off track is through self-sabotaging thoughts and the constant push to change them.

I know sometimes it feels like God is distant from you. It’s hard to feel connected to Someone or some things that are unclear. Feeling foggy is a norm. Trust me, I get it. Maybe you do not even feel that God is distant or disconnected. You feel unworthy or unprepared to hear from Him and what He truly desires from you.