Decisions that Define Us
“One decision made can trigger a season of success or misery.”
~ Dr. Dharius Daniels
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I want to share my journey with full transparency - I'm currently in my third marriage. Each union has taught me valuable lessons, and I've come to understand the importance of making the right decisions for my life.
Looking back, my first marriage was driven by the circumstances of a teenage mother in a military community, where marrying for benefits seemed like the logical choice. While I loved my first husband, I knew it wouldn't last long. My second and third marriages were the results of irrational pivots driven by fear and emotions, not a clear understanding of myself and my true desires.
Each time I made the decision to marry I triggered a season of misery. Not because marriage is terrible. Marriage when done right can be beautiful. Not because my spouses were horrible people. I made these decisions for the wrong reasons and with the wrong intentions. I had not learned to acknowledge my emotions and reconcile them with the facts. What were my thoughts about the situation the way they were? Did they align with who I believed God to be in my life? I didn’t sit and consider any of this because my emotions were driving the car. Fear was driving.
So, I ask you - who’s been driving your life vehicle?
We’ll unwrap how to take back the wheel but for now. Let’s just sit in the process. There is no change without decision-making.
Are you sober and sane in making decisions?
Do you see the big picture or just the circumstances you're sitting in?
Is there a purpose that serves you or only others around you?
Does it make sense for you and those you love?
Would God be pleased with the decisions you’ve made?
Are you pleased?
Each decision you make is going to trigger something. Those “somethings” form the creation that we call life.
Are you living life on your terms?
All of these questions may not remit the answers you’d prefer. Trust me. You can change them. One decision at a time.
So I encourage you to give yourself the grace to be wrong and take the steps to be right. Think about who’s been driving the vehicle of your life. Who’s been running your life company? Isn’t it time for a restructuring?
Asking ourselves the right questions is crucial - do our choices serve our purpose, make sense for ourselves and our loved ones, and align with our values? It's essential to detach from fear's grip and grant ourselves the grace to be wrong and take the steps to be right.
Now, I encourage you to think about who's been running your life company. Embrace self-awareness and start restructuring your life's path. One decision at a time, you can take control and shape your life according to your terms.
Embrace the journey of self-discovery, and soon you'll find yourself living a life that reflects your true essence.
