#BreakthruSeason: Scaling the Wall of Self-Doubt
Then you, you built a wall
A 20-foot wall
So I couldn't see
But if I get off my knees
I might recall
I'm 20-feet tall
This concept of a wall blocking our view brings up multiple examples. To start with, the song quoted above. The 1989 miniseries The Women of Brewster Place also pops into mind when thinking about women being blinded and enclosed by the walls that stand before them. Being an Army veteran, the obstacle course is a fond memory that reminds me of how intimidating it can be to stand before a wall that I doubt I can climb and overcome. What about you? Do you know anything about scaling walls?
Let’s visualize this for a moment.
1. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and then exhale slowly. Repeat this a few times until you feel calm and centered.
2. Imagine yourself standing in an open space. As you look ahead, you see a tall wall rising up in front of you. This wall is made up of all the self-doubts, fears, and limiting beliefs that have ever held you back.
3. Take a closer look at the wall. What is it made of? Is it built with bricks, stones, or something else? Notice the texture, the color, and how imposing it seems. Feel its presence and how it stands between you and what you desire on the other side.
4. As you stand there, begin to notice that each brick or stone in the wall has a word or phrase on it—these are your doubts and fears. You might see words like “Not Good Enough,” “Fear of Failure,” “I’m Too Much,” or “What Will They Think?”
- Acknowledge each word as it appears. Don’t judge it—just recognize that these doubts have been a part of your journey.
5. Allow yourself to feel the weight of this wall and the impact it has had on you. How has it stopped you from moving forward? What emotions does it bring up—fear, frustration, sadness, or maybe even anger?
6. Now, take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, set a powerful intention: “I acknowledge this wall, and I am ready to break through it.” Imagine a small crack appearing in the wall as you say this. Feel a sense of determination rising within you.
7. Slowly bring your awareness back to the present. Open your eyes and take a moment to write down what you saw, felt, and experienced. What were the words on your wall? How did it feel to acknowledge them? What intention did you set to break through?
Are you surprised to see a wall? Or were you already fully aware that there is a wall standing in your way?
Based on my own experience, we will always encounter a wall, but as we heal within and trust our Lord more, the walls will become smaller, and we will become stronger, taller, and more skilled in scaling or leaping over them. Right now, that wall may seem intimidating and unbearable to encounter. I understand.
This month, we are going to open our eyes to the presence of these obstacles that hinder our continuous path to empowerment and transformation. We can say a lot of things. We can do a lot of things, but when we say and do without belief, faith, and intention, we’re honestly spinning our wheels in the mud. We have four months left in 2024, and we started this year believing that we could finish it strong and better than ever before. WE CAN STILL DO THIS.
This week, we’ll start by bringing down the wall of self-doubt—one brick at a time.
To make sure we are clear and on the same page here, let’s highlight common signs of self-doubt:
- Struggling to find enough self-worth to overcome perfectionism.
- Imposter syndrome is leading your decisions because you feel like a fraud waiting to be found out instead of the boss you really are who is waiting to be discovered.
- Constantly comparing yourself to others regularly. So and so is way more talented and qualified than I am, so they deserve a huge following, consistent cash flow, and all the accolades.
- The broken record of “What if” playing nonstop day and night. “What if I fail?” “What if they don’t like me?” “What if I’m not enough?”
- Faux humility. Finding external factors to praise for any achievements or accomplishments instead of receiving compliments and praise for your success.
- Self-isolation. “I don’t need nobody. I can do it myself.” Sound familiar? Asking for help is weak and feeds other people’s thoughts that I am incompetent and inadequate, right?
In full transparency, I felt a twinge of inner discomfort writing those signs. I, too, am still becoming stronger at scaling this wall. What I can share with you is that paying attention is the first step to taking back your strength and power to overcome any and every obstacle that stands in your way.
Remember, the KLB Strategy starts with self-awareness and paying attention to your world, starting within.
Getting to deeply and intimately know and accept yourself gives you the strength to love yourself and BE the woman who no longer needs to ponder her ability to overcome this wall.
So, I ask you:
- What is the wall you see in front of you today, and what are the "bricks" that make it up?
- What has your wall kept you from experiencing or achieving?
This week, I challenge you to acknowledge each brick and take one small action to start dismantling it. Join us for our weekly check-in on Thursday in the Global Women’s Transformation Community to share your reflections, connect with others who are scaling their own walls, and receive support and encouragement from this powerful community. Remember, we are all in this together, and there’s no better time than now to start making those cracks in the wall.
Let’s climb together and claim our victory, one step at a time.
