Embracing The Power Within and How I Go to The Other Side

By Siya HealHer Nishati

In a world where mental limitations were my overall arching way of living, my journey to self-discovery and healing was inevitable. From living in the U.S., becoming burned out, and moving to Africa to heal and thrive is part of my story. 

This journey was not just about travel but about my healing to create change and make a difference in this world. There is one big world, but sometimes we just live in our own world in our minds.

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Becoming a young mother changed me, but Africa changed me even more.

As a young African American girl born on the West Coast in California and growing up in Georgia as a teenager, I never dreamed of going, let alone living in Africa. I didn’t even know what I wanted to be when I grew up. So, taking this trip to the motherland was a truly eye-opening, expansive, and impactful experience. 

“If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.”

-Nobel Peace Prize winner and former President of Liberia,  Ellen Johnson Sirleaf-

At the age of 19, I found myself with more responsibilities than I could even think of. I became a mother, wife, and homeowner. This quickly showed me that I needed to figure out who I was, what I wanted to do, and where I was going.

After feeling miserable and lost for so many years and knowing I wanted more out of life, I began awakening to a different reality and learning more about myself, what I wanted, and what to do with my life.

Through spirituality, I explored, focused more on myself rather than titles in society, and gained more insight into my purposes in life.

In 2019, I set out on a spiritual journey to find a place where I felt like I belonged, wouldn’t be judged, and could live freely. I wanted to walk the past of my ancestors, and that I did. 

Along with my husband and young son, we left everything behind in America in hopes of living in Africa for the rest of our lives! 

From Rwanda, the place of a thousand hills, to the bushes of Zanzibar, where bush babies climbed the trees and starred at me as I had a semi-heart attack, and where bats flew over the swinging hammock at nightfall; I knew I was in true paradise.

Life became slow, I became present, and my mind became sharper. I was making friends within the community, walking freely with my sun around the island, and enjoying life in a way I never knew existed. During this time, I was still building my life and business, but it was in a way that did require so much out of me.

Previously, in America, my spirit and soul cried out for love, unity, community, and freedom. My extended travels allowed me to heal and grow past pain, which I could not do in a busy world. 

WHAT I LEARNED ALONG THE JOURNEY:

Traveling is a beautiful experience. However, when I first traveled to Africa, I had yet to learn what to expect. 

What I learned along my journey:

  1. It is more about the journey rather than the destination.

  2. I have all that I need inside of me; the experiences throughout life are meant for me to use to bring out my greatness. 

  3. There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries for myself and others.

  4. I needed to heal from the inside and out. (It takes a lifetime.)

  5. It all starts within me.

  6. It is essential to be present in my mind, body, soul, and spirit.

  7. There are many layers to healing.

All I wanted was freedom from the mind, body, soul, spirit, and America’s way of doing things. I knew life was different around the world. What we are led to believe, the way of living, thinking, doing business, and being spiritual, differs in many places worldwide. At this time, I had only been to Africa. 

I now know doing it afraid and moving past mental barriers was the key to my achieving transformation. The limiting beliefs and mental barriers kept me stuck. 

Moving past these barriers has allowed me to see significant changes in my mental thoughts and the things I have achieved in my life. 

As I heal and grow, I learn how to live each day. It gives me joy to share my story and energy with other women and mothers who are seeking the same.

Rediscovering My Identity

Healing has many layers

Through this journey that continues in life, I take the tools to shed the labels that have defined me and kept me bound in America. As I continue to grow, move, and live, I no longer look at life the same. Life and travels have shown me more of who I am as a spiritual being, woman, mother, wife, dreamer, creator, healer, and so much more….

This is more than about me; it is about her, which is you!

Nikki Cates

Moms & Grams | Wife | Believer | Life Transformation Coach & Strategist | Writer | Army Veteran | Change Agent

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